Are you afraid of change?

Answer Yes or No to each question:

1. I am a creature of habit. I get up and go to sleep at the same time every day.
2. Whether I do it or other people do it to me, changes in my routine make me feel off balance.
3. Being in control, or knowing what is going to happen in any given situation, is what I strive for.
4. I keep as many of the same people in both my private and public life. I don't like inviting new people into my world.
5. I don't initiate new friendships or business contacts. I don't know how they will respond to me.
6. Even though I know what I am talking about, when someone asks a question or presents an objection that I haven't heard before, I freak.
7. Being emotionally safe and comfortable is more important to me than a larger income.
8. I want to eat my meals at the same time everyday, unless it is an emergency. I do eat my meals at the same time everyday.
9. I know that change isn't always what it is cracked up to be. There are always unknown factors to deal with that make me uncomfortable.
10. I keep the same job, although I am very unhappy, because I feel safe.

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Add up your score: Yes: _________ No:__________

If you have 4 Yes answers, you have the start of a problem. With 5-10 Yes answers, you have a problem.

On the surface people who are afraid of change usually appear to others as if they are on top of their game.  They are viewed as being able to handle a certain amount of volatility and unpredictability as they go along in life.

Have you every really looked at your life? Even though you seem to be living a rather unpredictable life, what is really going on?

  ARE YOU ATTACHED TO YOUR STATUS QUO? 

Have you settled into a daily routine, that makes you very predictable?  Everyone knows you go to coffee at 10am at the local café. Do you feel safer with old friends and business associates? You are always with the same people; there is never anyone new in your life that you have invited. Have you created a life style that feels comfortable and safe to you? Do you buy from the same stores; the same sales people, and wear the same colors year after year?  When you have to initiate a meeting with someone new, are you relieved when they don’t respond to your calls or correspondence? 

DOES YOUR FEAR OF CHANGE MAKE YOU A CONTROL FREAK? 

Do you find that you have to feel in control of everything in your life? The minute you feel out of control, you lose your mental footing? If this is the case, your best method of dealing with the fear of change is to select a goal that is out of your comfort zone. I don’t mean miles out of it, just a few yards. Once you have done this, begin to look at a plan to accomplish the goal.  You don’t need to take giant steps to accomplish the goal, only baby steps that you can practice over and over again until they feel comfortable for you to take.

THE KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS

Is doing the same NEW thing over and over again until it isn’t new to you.  Once you have mastered step one in your plan, it moves automatically into your “I am safe column”.

As you accomplish one part of your goal, You must begin once again, moving out of your comfort zone to accomplish the part. You must mentally  practice the worst and best case scenario connected to each individual part.  Now you are prepared for anything that may happen. Which translates to, I am comfortable in this situation, there isn’t anything that I can’t handle.  

YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS STATEMENT OF FACT SHOULD BE!   

I now truly believe I can and now do enjoy initiating changes in my life.  I subconsciously, consciously, spiritually and physically attain, maintain and expand this belief with speed, ease, comfort and joy.